I think I figured out my issues when trying to give others advice on either blogging, or fashion, or what to do with their avatars.
I cannot be myself!
That is the short answer!
If I am myself, I would just be blunt and straight to the point, and not hold back but, because I know how my disability and I do not see eye to eye on things, I tend to be more.. harsh than I mean to be, and so, I try to go with being more monotones and diplomatic.. meaning, I try to sensor everything I am saying, and then that too comes off as me being a bitch to people…
So, you can see my dilemma here, can’t you?
Either I am straightforward and a bitch, or I am forcing diplomacy, and still a bitch.. I can’t win in this advice game so….
I have made a video..
In this video I cover how to make a page break using Blogger.ca or .com, which ever it comes up for you…
Now, I am not a user of this blog.. I think I may have had one, years ago but, once I went wordpress, I never went back.. but, for the sake of this tutorial I used blogger.com to help a long time friend out.
I am hoping that they will not take offense to it because, I will admit, I was upset by the convo we were having, and I found it to be … irritating, and that is likely not their fault but, it is hard to decider “attitude” in text.. so, yes.. in this video you will likely hear me being passively aggressive.. nothing I can do about it now, and this video is too in depth for me to go and re-record… so, lol bare with it!
I know in parts of this video, I was internally screaming, lol.. but, hey.. I tried..
To that long time friend.. I hope that you take the advice that my sister and I offered up..
I promise you, I did not share your blog with her for malice reasons, only because, I know that when it comes to family and friends, I work harder to try not to hurt them, when I am explaining things, or giving advice but, I knew that my Hex sister would not have this issue at all because, she “tells it like it is”.. and since she doesn’t know you personally, it would be a lot easier for her to tell you how to improve your blog than for me.. since, I am too set on not hurting anyone….
Anyway, I hope this tutorial on how to add a page break, and how to use certain lighting in sl, and other stuff, has help people out there.
I will be honest, I had even removed something passive aggressive that I was going to post for one of my youtube watchers that hurt me but, in the end, I removed it… See? I can show some control… not a lot, granted.. but, some! lol.
I just want to be able to help people out but, at the same time.. to be able to be ME and not have to worry about the fall out..
It’s the same when I am blogging.. If there is something wrong with an outfit, or a product, and I point it out, then I feel 100 times worse, when it comes back at me… it may not even be a bad thing..
Example? An event I blogged a few months back.. I pointed out something that could be dangerous….. and not only was I fired for pointing it out but, I was accused of a whole slew of slander.. and I didn’t do anything wrong.. but, in the end.. it was a loss that I still feel to this day… as per convo with my sl mum, Leannan..
Sigh.. I wish we lived in a perfect world where everyone could just give their advice, or opinion and not have to sit and wait for the fall out… but, alas.. we don’t.. So, that being said.. here is my post for, Monday.. and I hope that you enjoyed it, and were able to pick up some awesome advice!
Have a great week.. and remember.. if someone pisses you off.. just smile at them, and say… “have a great day”.. because I promise you.. You will get better revenge with kindness, than with aggressiveness… and it will piss them off even more. lol.
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Item/URL | Product Name | Event | Month
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I hope that you have enjoyed this post!
Shape | So Hawt SL – Shapes | Inka | New Release
Head | Catwa | Lona
Hair | Truth | Taja Fatpack | New Release
Eye applier | The Skinnery | Don’t Speak | rewind | May 2017
Tattoo | Vestigium | Vinayaka
Nail Polish | Hello Dave | Dream In Secrets | New release
Body | Belleza | Isis
Ears | ^^Swallow^^ | Shiny Elf
Dress | CandyDoll | Kendra | n21 | May 2017
Shoes | CandyDoll | Raquel Pattern I
Rings | (Yummy) | Love Spell | n21 | May 2017
Piercing | (Yummy) | Love Septum | n21 | May 2017
Poses | *!R.O!* | Come Over / Control